There is this expectation when we have sexual intercourse to experience it somewhat longer. But, the term “longer” is relative because what satisfies people depends on their personal preference.
Statistics show that, on average, men can last 5 ½ minutes in bed during sexual intercourse (this is without foreplay). However, if a man is unable to last more than 2 minutes, then they are deemed to have either premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction or both.
Hetero couples were asked to define what an adequate sex session is and they say that the desirable length of time would be anywhere between 7-13 minutes.
So, if you are having a hard time lasting that long, then read on to find out how you can last longer.
1.Try Putting on a Penis Ring
Brand Manager and Sex Educator, Lisa Finn, said that penis rings may actually help people who experience either PE or ED. Such a ring would restrict blood flow into the shaft of the genital which may help them last longer in bed.
It is believed that men who are over-aroused can finish off way too quickly. Therefore, it would be best that you practice self-control by lowering your arousal levels by a bit.
3.Focus on Fulfilling Your Partner’s Pleasure
If you are solely focused on fulfilling your own pleasure, then there is a huge chance that you’re going to cum so easily.
What you can do, however, is to shift your focus from completing your mission to fulfilling your partner’s pleasure instead. This will allow you to last longer, given that you’re thinking more about your partner and not yourself.
Mindfulness is another helpful tool that you can use. According to August McLaughlin, the author of Girl Boner, she said that you can start by being mindful of what you eat. Instead of focusing on the food; focus on the sensation.
Furthermore, there are certain apps out there that will guide you through the process and most of them are for free.
5.It’s a Matter of Training for It
If you want to build muscles, what do you do? You train for it, right? If you want to last longer in bed, then that is something that you have to do as well.
In other words, lasting longer just means that you and your partner just has to have more sex. If that is not possible, consider masturbating before boning your partner.
6.Use Sex Toys
This could be considered cheating a little bit, but if your partner is suffering from a sexual disorder, then this can really help.
For instance, if he says that he is about to cum, have him stop and use a vibrator instead. If the feeling of coming off is gone, then he can proceed to bone you again.
7.Spend Time on Foreplay
Most men neglect foreplay, but they shouldn’t do this because foreplay, at least according to 95% of women, is more important than the actual intercourse.
If you finish off too quickly, definitely spend more time on foreplay to compensate.
8.Take Advantage of the “Refractory Period”
According to Marriage Therapist, Lisa Thomas, men need a few minutes to recuperate after ejaculation (also known as the refractory period). This is the period where they receive less stimulation on their penis- which makes it a perfect time for you to do it again.
9.Try Something New
Familiarity is something that can help him finish off way too quickly. Try to change the way you’re having sex with your partner by practicing new moves and sex positions.
10.Go to the Doctor
If all else fails, help him go to the doctor and ask for medications.